Why Are We So Obsessed With Toxic Relationships?

Society’s obsession with toxic relationships is rooted in the normalization of unhealthy behaviors.

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Toxic relationships seem to have a captivating hold on us, and as a society, we find ourselves inexplicably drawn to their destructive allure. However, it is imperative to delve into the reasons behind our obsession and shed light on the inherent harm it poses.

Toxic relationships have become a spectacle, an addictive indulgence for our voyeuristic tendencies. They provide an overwhelming thrill, allowing us a glimpse into the intense rollercoaster of emotions that ensue when passion and chaos collide. Megan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly epitomize this with their public displays of affection, unabashedly expressing their fiery connection for the world to see. We crave the heightened drama and emotional intensity that toxic relationships seem to embody.

Megan Fox And Machine Gun Kelly

It is easy to start to idolize toxic couples and the shows they put on, but as high as their highs may be, the lows are seemingly agonizing. An example of this was on February 12, 2023, Megan Fox posted to Instagram a new mirror selfie of herself wearing a strapless, black top and matching pants, as well as a hot pink arm cast, and wrote, quoting from Beyoncé’s 2016 song “Pray You Catch Me” from her album Lemonade, “You can taste the dishonesty / it’s all over your breath.” Within this carousel of photos, Fox posted a picture of papers in a bonfire, which one can only assume were love letters from Kelly. Their relationship from what they have shared in interviews and through Kelly’s music has never been necessarily healthy, yet many fans were devastated by the apparent breakup. Fox then deleted all their pictures together, and followed MGK’s known revival, artist Eminem, alongside Harry Styles and Timothée Chalamet. It seems she wanted to follow the toxicity rulebook and hit him where it hurt. However, as toxic couples do, they get back together and continue to endure what is often better left alone. Fox seemingly got embarrassed and deactivated her entire Instagram account, and was seen leaving therapy with Kelly just days later. They have been seen together as recently as May 2023, and are seemingly back together despite the drama.


Society’s obsession with toxic relationships is rooted in the normalization of unhealthy behaviors. Witnessing these toxic patterns unfold repeatedly in the media and popular culture makes us accept them as the norm. Consequently, we may unwittingly replicate these harmful dynamics in our own lives or tolerate them in our relationships, perpetuating a cycle of toxicity. The danger lies in the fact that toxic relationships can inflict severe emotional and psychological harm on the individuals involved. The constant emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and volatility erode self-esteem, self-worth, and mental well-being. The obsession with such relationships indirectly reinforces the belief that toxic behavior is acceptable or even desirable, jeopardizing the pursuit of healthy and fulfilling connections.